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As I gather myself together this morning I’ll try to explain to ya where I’m going to live.
In the next couple of days I’ll be slowly moving my things over to the North side of Holland. A long-time friend of mine owns a double wide and is allowing me to move in for awhile. The rent is going to be much less than I’m paying now and the double wide cool factor will definatly be an experience - I’m shooting for the better.
My new roommate will be David Musterd and maybe a guy named TJ.
The North side isn’t really a bad place and depending on what you do it’s sometimes the best place to live. For myself - I’ll be a Southsider living on the Northside. I hope there isn’t any fights that break out because of this however.
posted on August 13, 2002 | 8:16 AM EST
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Welcome to the Club AA-Ron. I’ve been a southsider living on the northside since junior year. It isn’t so bad. Hey, tough break with Dan, dude. I know when I was living in K-zoo, one of our roomies wanted to have A/C and we decided since there was no real way of showing how much energy he used, if we didn’t get it in a “common” room, ie. living room, bathroom or kitchen, and he didn’t want to pay 50% of the bill, then he couldn’t have it. If Dan wants to play the “I own it, you pay for it” game, no one wins but him. Hopefully you can all sort this out. Hey, let me know where you are, we’re probably alot closer now.
You know I really don’t think it matters who is wrong or who is right in this situation. But it does matter what the Bible says. Like the chorus “I Surrender” says, when you choose to follow Christ you lay down your rights before the Lord, no matter how big or how small.
In regards to your words which you displayed to the public in a “quickness of the mouth”………
“You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on a stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.”
Matthew 5:14-16
” *Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth.”
Ecclesiastes 5:2
“For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks…..But I tell you that men will have to give account for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquited, and by your words you will be condemned.”
Matthew 12:34b & 36
I hope we can all learn from this situation.
First of all, let me set a few things straight.
1. Dan owns the house (he’d probably be willing to split the land tax bill with you too!!)
2. You asked to live there, he did not come to you
3. You failed to mention, that the house has central air so you are benefiting from a cool place to live too. The air conditioner in Dan’s window was his solution to the problem of living upstairs under a hot, uninsulated roof and not having to freeze you, Aaron, out to keep it cool enough upstairs.
4. Dan got it from me. If he would have said the things about this home owner when he lived here, that you have spewed out on this site, his stuff would have been in the street (and probably run over). I don’t tolerate alot of obnoxious, disrespectful behavior either, as you can tell.
Now, let me tell you a few things from the perspective of someone who is older and obviously quite a bit wiser than you.
The past 6 months has probably been the hardest and lowest time of my life. I’ve been a Christian for many years. Too many times I have tried to work things out by shooting off my opinions (I’m sure much to God’s dismay) as you have the past few days, and probably causing someone who was unsure of their salvation to decide that they didn’t want to serve my God. About 6 months ago, I began a journey with God that I don’t ever want to give up. See, when you come into a situation where your heart is broken and there’s nothing you can humanly do to resolve the situation, you finally learn to give yourself completely to God. No more living on my parent’s salvation or thinking I’m “good enough” because I go to church or read my Bible once in awhile. I have found myself waking up and reaching for my Bible. I can’t seem to make it through a day without looking to see what the Bible says or calling out to God.
Just this morning I read that we should “Grow up” spiritually and stop feeding on milk like babies. I believe that is what has happened to me. Aaron, don’t wait until you’re in your 40’s to “Grow up” in Christ. If you would ‘eat’ the spiritual food at the church you attend and if you would spend the time in God’s word that you spend slandering other people on this internet site, you would grow up in Christ too, and you might help other people want to serve your God?
The Bible says “To him who knows the truth and doesn’t do it, to him it is sin”. You know the truth now, I challenge you to grow up in Christ.
Thank you for the encouragement to keep growing in Christ. It is something I work hard for everyday -whether you believe me or not. Then again it is between God and myself and not for you to judge where you might think I’m at.
I’m sure you’ll agree that we all have hard times and many of us have been mistreated. I am a strong believe that sharing your thoughts with others is a way to help others to avoid the same situations in life.
I have no idea what Dan has told you and given it that he is your son you’ll probably take his side no matter what but the sad truth is that I was mistreated.
Just like I haven’t said everything on here I’m pretty sure that Dan hasn’t told you everything either. For example he said he would kill me if he could just earlier today.
Let’s answer some question:
1. Dan owns the house (he’d probably be willing to split the land tax bill with you too!!)
A: I wouldn’t know - he won’t talk people. He said (in these words) — “I figured that you were getting such a great deal with living here I didn’t see anything wrong with adding $25.00 to your electric bill”.
It is also the choice of Dan to take a step into the life of a home owner. If he can’t handle it then he shouldn’t have tried. Trying to sneak money from others isn’t respectable.
2. You asked to live there, he did not come to you
A: You’re wrong. While talking to Joel (your other son) one day i said I was looking for a place to live. He said that Dan was thinking about buying a house and would get back to me if Dan would like another roommate. Later that week I Joel told me that he had a conversation with Dan and that they would love for me to come live in their house.
3. The air conditioner in Dan’s window was his solution to the problem of living upstairs under a hot, uninsulated roof and not having to freeze you, Aaron, out to keep it cool enough upstairs.
I believe others have explained this issue already. I would refer to Chris Gale’s post on this. My problem wasn’t with the air though - it was with his lack of communication and charging his roommates extra without letting them know why. $25.00 more than the actual bill was.
4. Dan got it from me.
A: That doesn’t make it by any means right.
4a. If he would have said the things about this home owner when he lived here, that you have spewed out on this site, his stuff would have been in the street (and probably run over). I don’t tolerate alot of obnoxious, disrespectful behavior either, as you can tell.
A: If you’re son asked what the bills were but you wouldn’t show him and would proceed to get obset by him asking then I’m sorry that Dan had to learn that from his own family.
p.s. Being older doesn’t always make you wiser.
If the Boyles family would like to sit down with me and actually discuss what’s going on - feel free to do so.
On another note:
Tell your son Dan to stop going through my stuff in my room. I wouldn’t have known except your other son Joel gave me a heads up.
There are alot of non-Christian people, or young people who are struggling to make their faith their own, or to find it, who read this sight faithfully. I wonder what they are thinking now? I wonder what brings them back entry after entry… I think it is because it is a sight which deals with everyday stuff. It questions things we all think about, it shares, it fumbles, it us shows how to get back up again.
The entries below could have been sent by personal email. I feel the very good they were meant to have probably did more harm to some readers than even Aaron’s offensive words, to which Jodi handled wonderfully. I can almost hear James snicker, and Rusty roll his eyes.
The bottom line is, let’s not judge. If something becomes personal, don’t attack. Call, or talk it out, share, build up.
What has happened has gone too far. People are hurt, and hurt people need to know how to react to that hurt, no matter what their age. I do love the Lord, I read His Word, I try to live it, and pass it on, but I will not hide behind it, nor use it to condemn others. I figure that the Holy Spirit does that just fine. I can just reflect some light.
Dan, ‘great peace have they which love thy law, and NOTHING shall offend them” Ps. 119 Do not be afraid of confrontation when it comes, stand strong, be true, I can see it in your eyes that you have what it takes, learn to calm those that confront you, show them peace and honesty…it diffuses…
Joel, Switzerland will never be the same. Sorry you are there. You’ve tried to be a brother and a friend, but you did stand up when you thought something was wrong. Hurray. God bless. I wish I knew you better.
Chip, I do not know you. You live next door, however you have not yet looked me in the eye. Period. That is another story.
Aaron, you’ve all ready heard it all. I am still proud of you for what you have NOT said on your web about the whole situation, and I think they should be too.
Mrs. Boyles, I wish I knew you better, and I know you love your family. I wish this situation hadn’t exploded, but God uses stranger things for good, wouldn’t you agree? Please do not let your anger show ~ Jesus only lost it once, and he over turned some tables.
I can verify Aaron is a Christian. God bless, and stop the talk here. New topic?
Chris Says:
Welcome to the Club AA-Ron. I’ve been a southsider living on the northside since junior year. It isn’t so bad. Hey, tough break with Dan, dude. I know when I was living in K-zoo, one of our roomies wanted to have A/C and we decided since there was no real way of showing how much energy he used, if we didn’t get it in a “common” room, ie. living room, bathroom or kitchen, and he didn’t want to pay 50% of the bill, then he couldn’t have it. If Dan wants to play the “I own it, you pay for it” game, no one wins but him. Hopefully you can all sort this out. Hey, let me know where you are, we’re probably alot closer now.